“You are a thousand miles away but no one else is closer to my heart”
“Distance gives us reason to love harder”
“You make me smile despite the miles” YEN YEN YEN
Tales we tell when our partners are not close to us.
The guy that wouldn’t stop sliding into her DM is much closer to her and the girl next door is probably in his heart.
What happens when I need someone to talk to? What happens when I need my partner to go out with me? Who do I see a movie with? Who do I gossip with? Who do I act goofy around? Who do I bully to do my biddings? Who do I call when I am having a bad day? Who do I prank? Who do I cuddle? Who do I shout at? Who do I call when I am horny???? Who? Who? Who?
Long-distance relationships leave us with endless who’s and what’s. It requires a great deal of trust, contentment plus a whole lot of discipline and commitment. Some people do not go into a relationship thinking “oh well “I’m not going to see my partner for another year” sometimes life happens; your partner might get a new job or relocate to another country or state. What happens if LDR is what you have on the table? Do you break up with your partner or basically have a virtual relationship?
Is this the part when we realize how physically disturbing someone’s son can be so much fun and slapping someone daughter’s bum bum is all you just want to do. And as much as we hate to admit to ourselves, sex is actually a very important part of our being, what happens when you are horny? What do you do? Do you finally pay your neighbor a visit shirtless, go on that date hoping to get lucky or you just masturbate but how long can you keep that up? When do you pack your bags and move to wherever your partner is or end the relationship so you can see other people and not feel guilty or simply do what most people do:
“ They lie about seeing other people, pretend like all is well in the world and finally, when they get to see their partners they realize they had drifted apart, they are two different individuals and the relationship can no longer work” What a waste. Right?
You get comments like “so what we have only works when we are together”, “you really don’t love me”. The truth is just because you can not deal does not mean you love your partner less and we need to ask ourselves what is love? Is it ever enough?
– I love you because you listen to me
– I love that we have fun together
– I love the way you laugh…It soothes my ears
– I love the way your lips get so pink when you wake up in the morning
– I love disturbing your sleep when I can’t sleep
– I love having my legs all over you
– I love when you get angry and say “Baby Mike is a dick”, “baby this guy is dumb”
– I love that your nails are always neatly cut
– I love the way you touch me
– I love the way you kiss me
– I love when you open up to me
What happens when all these are not there? Will phone conversation be enough?
On the other hand, some people are Long distance relationship experts, I have no idea how they do it but these guys enjoy the mushy talks over the phone, the virtual dates, the dry jokes, the cute little surprises and the very once in a while visits. These people are genuinely happy in their LDR and they are very much committed to it. I say good luck to those bunch. I’d like to have breathing dildo very close to me and I do not enjoy some conversation over the phone.
In the end, it all comes down to whatever rocks our boats, it is okay to say No to Long distance relationship and it is okay to love and enjoy it. What is not okay is lying to yourself about what you want.
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Is it a deal-breaker?
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You're already a successful personal. The things we take for granted someone else is praying for. Mind you Dreams is not what you see in sleep, Is the thing which doesn't let you sleep.
Keep it up my dear sister
Its a no no for me. I don't do long distance relationship.
I can’t say that I’m not a fan of long distance relationships. I have not explored that part of me.lol
Long distance relationship is so complicated, it takes both partners to effectively communicate and understand each other, it's not easy… Some work out and some don't. ..personally I'd encourage more of friendship in a LDR and more communication rather than having too many complicated and toxic conversations
You can give it a trial but Mhennn it's not easy babe
Depending on individuals, our choices differ. Irrespective of one's choice of relationship style, being true to one's self is most important. Stick to what works for you.